“I bitched out!”
I could hear the disappointment in my 20 y.o. son’s voice as he shared with me how he dealt with an aggressive stranger confronting him at the local gas station.
Although it’s not the best terminology for submitting to the fear of being beat up and “standing down” – it’s also not an uncommon feeling for those who have been face-to-face with someone who got the best of them.
And trust me… I know it from personal experience!
I’ll share his story… as well as my 3- part advice for how to control fear in any situation – and come out the other side with your pride (and your life!) intact…
How To Punch Fear In The Face When Confronted By An Aggressive Bully Or Attacker…
Here’s What You’ll Discover In This Week’s Episode:
- The truth about “fear” and how to use it in a hostile confrontation!
- How a deadly trip to the top of Mt. Everest taught me the 3 things you need to control your fear in ANY situation!
- The one question you must ask yourself right now to make sure you don’t “give up” when attacked by a violent aggressor!
- Why “skills” are only one factor – and a tiny one at that – for making sure you can back up your bravado!
- And much, MUCH more!
It doesn’t matter how big or strong your aggressor is… these secrets will show you the way to staring them right in the face and know that the only reason they’re still talking is because you are letting them!
Jeff, spot on Brother! As a former Special Forces Operator your lesson is the exact mindset I try to instill in my Grand kids, learning to deal with pain is learning to deal with life, there are too many idiots out there without respect for others anymore, sadly, that is just how it has become.
Skill sets aside, that person or persons is going to know what they got themselves into and will most likely think twice before trying it on another again.
My advice is to hit them 3 ways, Hard, Fast and Continuously!
Please let your son know he did the exact right thing, as the great line from the movie “Roadhouse” said, (I paraphrase) be polite, until it’s time to not be polite.
Than it is game on!
Keep up the outstanding work you continue to do my friend and Thank you.
Respectfully, Mike
Thank you, for your service and deep sense of duty and fidelity to your famlily and nation.
I have faced life threatening situations from a very young age. Growing up with PTSD was a life-saver. Although not a daily necessity anylonger, my mind still makes great choices for me when i find myself in danger.
I recall being strangled and remaining calm while i considered my options and waited till i was almost thrown over a 2nd story balcony, before i gasped and stared, wide eyed at an imaginary danger above us.. This gave me time, opportunity and position, and i stubbed my ciggarette in my attackers eye, so i could get my badly beaten up friend and myself to safety, and her to a medical center.
Another time, the most recent, my hyper vigelance and a powerful SUV saved me from getting hijacked and possibly kidnapped in an area where women are taken and forcibly used as gangs do, and permanently drugged so that they dont know who or where they are, even if they do somehow escape, they crawl right back due to forced hard drug addiction.
Too many situations to mention.
When things go wrong, i find the best way through.. But when things go terribly wrong, my PTSD kicks in and i am the ghost that moves when everyone around me is frozen and too shocked to think calmly and clearly.
Fear or rather the symptoms of adrenaline seem to kick in once the danger is neutralised or a non issue.
I thank God for my youth – he moulded my mind for His purposes. He has used me to help others, as do you, many times.
I am grateful.
Saw this and started listening. Heard your son’s reaction and thought “I wouldn’t be afraid, but that’s exactly what I would say, ‘I don’t have a problem–I wasn’t looking at you’.” It is great that you and your son can talk about this. Glad it worked out, but I’m sorry it was distressing to him. I’m a lot bigger than 140 pounds, but old. Still I have the confidence that I can take care of myself and I believe that is communicated to the pricks of the world. I believe everyone should learn how to take care of themselves because we live in a world where some people will take advantage of easy victims. Keep up the good work.
I have had a few experiences with having to face fear. As I look back I can think of 4 situations in which my life or those I love was at risk. One was a house intruder in the middle of the night. I woke up to a family member older than me struggling with the intruder in the hallway. As I open the door to my room I just took off running, tackled the intruder to the ground, and with everything I had started punching him in the face. That was enough for the guy to surrender and cried asking me to stop. It ended up being a drunk guy who thought he was in his house. He walked through an unlocked back door. I was a guest at my uncle’s house, He forgot to check the back door before going to bed. I won’t bore you all with my other stories but I noticed that the only time I felt fear was when it was my life at risk not when it involved others.
Hi Jeff: First: Thank you for your service. I appreciate your thoughts and drive. A short anecdote…I felt there was no other outcome other than my rather painful death; I resolved: “You will remember me!” I put every bit of force possible in the punch, since it would be the last thing I would ever do…so might as well make it worthwhile. The end result was that the polar bear was vanquished with the pain I delivered to him. I was shocked that I was unharmed. The incident made other threats seem minuscule in comparison. You can verify my incident on “Google”; just put in my name: Wes Werbowy
You are doing a great service even now…Thank you…Wes
Mr. Werbowy, I read the amazing account of your experience with that poor, unfortunate bear. Should I ever meet you here in NE Texas, I know to address you with “Yes, Sir” and “No, Sir.” Clearly, our Lord and Savior had your “six” during that night ambush.
Respectfully,
Allen Brown in Tyler